3/9/2009 1:51 A.M.
I was court ordered to attend P.A.K. mediation by the judge overseeing my court case. I scheduled for March 6th 2009 at 11:00 am. Father Scheduled for March 6th 2009 for 11:30. I arrived 10 minutes late because I past Main Street off Roosevelt rd and had to turn around, then I caught the train in downtown Wheaton, Illinois. I meet with a mediator whose name I can’t mention for legal and confidential reasons (my ex’s confidentiality) we talked about the mediation process, what I hope to achieve in mediation, and the ground rules for mediation. She then asked me to wait while she talked with my ex for twenty minutes, after speaking with my ex we all sat down in a room she laid out the rules and stated she would guide us through but we the parents would make all the decisions. The mediator asked me to start with one thing that I wanted to resolve, I stated what I’d like to my ex and he didn’t agree. My ex then stated his issue, which I agreed to with conditions. I presented another issue which again my ex refused to agree or compromise to, calling me names and being belligerent. We continued this process for twenty minutes with my ex escalating the whole time while the mediator kept telling him to stop, she asked to speak in private with my ex-boyfriend they were gone for fifteen-twenty minutes when the mediator returned alone and ended our meeting, I left and went to work. I knew this was going to happen because my ex told a bunch of people he wasn’t going to agree with me in mediation he feels he stands a better chance in getting what he wants from the Judge than with compromising with me. I don’t understand what he is thinking he expects to see his daughter five-six days a week no matter what oh unless his work schedule changes!
Later that Friday while I was work my boyfriend had three kids and his parents over for supper our daughter was so fussy he couldn’t pick up my daughter from her father at 6:30 p.m. My boyfriend tried to call my ex-boyfriend but he didn’t answer. I called my ex that night and several times the next morning before he answered, he asked me angrily what happened he swore a lot at me and told me I could pick her up from the sitter in Arlington Heights while still yelling and cursing or get her back Tuesday that’s when I hung up. My Ex called a few more times still yelling and cursing so I could never get an address or directions, Who knows when he’ll calm down and agree on a time I can bring our daughter home.
